Fifty Shades of Physical and Emotional Abuse – The Dom

The long awaited Fifty Shades of Grey book review in which The Dom tries to articulate exactly how terrible every last aspect of this book is on every level.
Warning: This video is not very funny. I mean, theres an attempt to lighten the mood here and there but its mostly its just The Dom getting very VERY angry.

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Reviewer of games, TV shows and movies. The Dom also likes to look at film adaptations of books and talk about what got lost transitioning from page to screen.

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27 Comments on "Fifty Shades of Physical and Emotional Abuse – The Dom"

happymel
Guest

Since I would never read this book, this video was interesting. Although, from what you’re saying, this book really needed an editor. Lastly, I remembered why I used to like Twilight as a teen: It took place in Washington state (where I live), Bella was written as a smart student in the books who liked classical music and rock, I liked the abstinence aspect, I liked the small hick town feel, and I used to like romance novels. That’s probably why this franchise doesn’t appeal to me. It has almost none of that.

JamiSings
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Problem with Twilight – Edward & Bella’s relationship hits all 15 warning signs of domestic abuse. So – Edward Cullen is a wife beater.

caffeinatedkate
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I’ve never read this damn thing and never wanted to but I’ve read reviews and some fairly detailed recaps by a blogger. If you know anything at all about domestic abuse, practically every interaction between the leads sets off a warning klaxon in your head. He does everything in the textbook except threaten to kill himself if she leaves and he comes pretty close to that one on occasion. And people who … erm, actually have that type of sex life are offended by this book? Doesn’t surprise me. Domestic abuse victims are offended, people who work with abuse victims… Read more »
Snorgatch Pandalume
Guest
I’m a writer, having had a book published, and I do feel depressed that someone who apparently put so little effort into their work is reaping so much greater rewards for it than I am. OTOH, that’s not her fault. It’s the fault of all those sexually-frustrated middle-aged women with shitty taste who bought her book because it was “naughty.” Ladies, I wrote a novel where a small furry creature with webbed ears has sex with a human female. That “naughty” enough for you? I am proud to say, however, that the lovers in my book have a much more… Read more »
theatrekid
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I think that the reason the book did so well is because it wasn’t kinky. In fact, it appealed perfectly to a specific demographic that thinks the ideal partner is rich, handsome, and prizes his lover so much he becomes extremely possessive. The “bdsm” in this book, even if it were consensual and enjoyed by both parties (which it’s not) is extremely tame and mostly consists of spanking and some butt stuff. that’s because the book wasn’t for people into bdsm. it was written by a lonely house wife, for lonely house wives, who have probably never strayed any further… Read more »
Snorgatch Pandalume
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Yeah, I imagine this book appeals to readers of trashy romance novels who want the excitement of feeling like they’re doing something they shouldn’t while not straying TOO far from safe territory. After all, it’s not like Christian Grey is BLACK or ASIAN, because God forbid! And of course he has to be rich and handsome, because why would you want anyone who wasn’t? He’s Prince Charming, but with a sinister, titillating dark side to make readers blush and shiver that they’re sampling forbidden fruit. But not TOO forbidden.

Nami Lazuli
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Ah yes Fifty Shades of what the hell is wrong with you E.L. James? Do people that write this not had an experience of what a good relationship is? Because if they think that’s what a relationship is…I worry for those people. Really worry.

TragicGuineaPig
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You know how the series should end? The girl should turn into a giant firebird and obliterate the guy into a big smoking crater. That way, they could call it Fifty Shades of Jean Grey.

Mides
Guest

Would the collateral damage to the X-Men franchise be worth it to you?

neytari
Guest

Intellect and consideration for women are such turn-ons <3 I have a teeny nitpick that this video seems to assume that all of your Beautiful Watchers are heterosexual Beautiful Watchers, but that's just a little thing. You're fantastic and I'm actually glad you aren't putting yourself through the sequels.

Hyatt
Guest
Christian ignoring Ana’s safewording is something in the third book, and I don’t think it was so much ignoring as getting angry at her and badgering her to retract it. I haven’t read the book or a sporking, and I don’t quite remember the quote or the context, but I have the vague impression that it wasn’t even in a sexual setting but her dealing with a stressful personal situation and he was ordering her around. Of course I could be completely wrong. Christian definitely never ignored Ana safewording in the first book, because in the first one she doesn’t… Read more »
Babinro
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I’m curious where all the ANGER comes from with this series. Dom correctly spends this episodes detailing the flaws of Grey which is fine but isn’t the fact that he’s a flawed character part of the point? I could spend 20 minutes railing against Hannibal Lector’s actions too but I recognize that while he’s presented as a brilliant badass character, he’s never once meant to be a person we aspire to be like in real life. 50 shades of grey is a story designed for entertainment. It’s not and never has been a guide to healthy sexual experimentation. In other… Read more »
NostalgiaManiac
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The flaws of Tony Stark as a person are called out on and the point is that he tries to do better.
Christian’s relationship with Anastasia is represented as romantic and desirable.

disembodiedvoiceofreason
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disembodiedvoiceofreason

The anger is because the author has incorrectly portrayed the BDSM lifestyle.

Babinro
Guest
Did the book ever promise to portray it correctly though? Its the writers discretion on how they choose to use the subject of BDSM in their book. In this case the character of Christian knows about the BDSM lifestyle but CHOOSES not to follow it properly. I’m not convinced that’s worthy of criticism. Its simply the writers choice in the fictional world they’ve created. Again, I’m not defending the book here. I’m just questioning why this is worth getting angry about. The book has plenty of other completely valid reasons to hate it and The Dom even covered them.
9ansean
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To the best of my knowledge, neither the author or director of Silence of the Lambs book and movie ever tried to frame Hannibal Lector’s relationship with Clarice Starling as a “love story”!
I second the point about Tony Stark by NostalgiaManiac.

JamiSings
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You’re comparing apples to horse feces. 50 Shades is touted as a romance and Grey as some sort of romantic, masculine ideal. When in fact it’s a poorly written pile of puke that glorifies rape and abuse.

Cirra
Guest

Babinro…the anger comes from what he said at the end. This book could end up hurting people. Probably already has. It feeds off people with low self-esteem and glorifies it as “Desirable.” IT IS NOT.

theatrekid
Guest
thank you. thank you so much. I am a member of the bdsm community and have had to explain SO MANY times why 50 shades is a load of shit and could ultimately be harmful to readers who mis interpret the book’s abusive relationship for healthy bdsm. Even if the book’s fans agree that it’s not a good or accurate portrayal of bdsm, I still know people who try to argue that its ok because “Anastasia changes him in the end.” THATS NOT HOW A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP WORKS! ugh. so thank you for giving me a source to cite and… Read more »
Snorgatch Pandalume
Guest

Talk about setting up unrealistic expectations! Getting into a relationship thinking that you’re going to change your partner is a recipe for failure. Any marriage counselor can tell you this is a non-event. It simply isn’t going to happen. If that’s the message of this book, then it’s even more of a fantasy than mine is, and if its readers think this is any sort of guide to how relationships actually work, they’re being set up to be disillusioned and disappointed.

disembodiedvoiceofreason
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disembodiedvoiceofreason

Given some of my own extra curricular activities I have gotten to know a few dom(me)s and subs and can attest that fifty shades is horribly inaccurate. This is clearly written by a bored house wife with no clue what she was talking about.

BellaWinx
Guest

Oh, it’s worse than that. Erika had a career; In television, no less. She’s just really messed up in her perception of what healthy romance is.

Yumikana
Guest

If you are interested in seeing a romance story containing BDSM Done right Go to DeviantArt and search for Sunstone its an awsome comic with some amazing art.

Cirra
Guest
Seconded. Stjepan Šejić writes an incredible, human story, which happens to explain BDSM in a way almost anyone can “Get it,” but mostly he said he just started drawing something fun with two women talking to each other and then they wouldn’t shut up. 😛 One of the best romance BDSM stories out there (and it does mention the dangerous misconceptions of stories like 50 Shades, without actually naming the story. In fact, I think one of the lead characters almost fell out of her chair laughing when someone asked her a question of “So, what, you sign a contract… Read more »
CaptainRoland
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This book or books should be censored or burned on occasion. I am rather disgusted, angry and moderately jealous of the titular main character mostly because because he’s rich and horribly can do whatever he wants without any hints of sin feeling like some complete, psychotic and abusive to the core, issue-filled, unrepentant Don Juan.

CaptainRoland
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I’m still a virgin at the age of 27 so I admittedly have no experience all of this stuff and sexual abusive concepts associated with this modern erotic bad literature except now I sort of do thanks to you smart, wise Online cinema and literature critic reviewers like you who are mostly white males, but that maybe better thing in our modern, morally confused, ultra corrupted world.This “erotic romance” novel considered genuine literature written by a white, British fat or slightly chubby or middle-aged woman no less may sounds so unsexy, unlovingly disturbing and horrible to even one like me… Read more »
quizzabella
Guest

God this whole FSOG love annoys the hell out of me. You are right Dom, that is not how BDSM should work. Consensual, mutually respectful BDSM is totally fine – if that’s a couple’s kink then roll with it (emphasis being COUPLE). I read the book – it sounded exactly like a workmate’s abusive relationship (he even tracked her car when they weren’t together) and ended up nearly strangling her. He got arrested. Christian Grey, I can totally see doing the same thing and he’s somehow a romance hero? NO. No. No.

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